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Friendship
Be fully present without judgment. Put away your phone, maintain eye contact, and let them express their feelings freely. Don't rush to give advice - sometimes silence and a caring presence speak volumes.
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Take initiative with specific help: "I'm bringing dinner Thursday" rather than "Let me know if you need anything." Handle everyday tasks like grocery shopping, childcare, or household chores. Small gestures make big differences.
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Remember significant dates - birthdays, anniversaries, holidays. These can be particularly challenging. Send a thoughtful message, make a call, or plan a quiet activity together. Your remembrance shows they're not alone.
Tell stories about their loved one, share photos, or create a memory book together. Don't avoid mentioning the deceased - hearing their name often brings comfort. Let them laugh and cry while reminiscing.
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Keep checking in long after the funeral. Grief doesn't end when the casseroles stop coming. Send regular texts, schedule coffee dates, or make brief visits. Consistency matters more than grand gestures.
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Acknowledge that grief isn't linear. Don't minimize their pain with phrases like "they're in a better place." Instead, say "I see your pain" or "It's okay to not be okay." Accept all emotions without judgment.
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Gently suggest grief counseling or support groups when appropriate. Offer to help find resources or accompany them to their first session. Remember, professional support complements friendship, not replaces it.
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Invite them for walks, meditation sessions, or healthy meals. Help them maintain routines and physical health. Show them it's okay to find moments of joy while grieving. Be patient with their healing process.
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