How to Be There for a Friend Going Through a Breakup

Written by:  Aquib Nawab

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Friendship

1. Listen Without Judgment 

Sometimes, all your friend needs is an ear. Let them vent, cry, or sit in silence. Your presence speaks volumes. Don't interrupt with advice unless asked. Be a safe space where they can express their raw emotions.

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2. Validate Their Feelings

Acknowledge the pain they're going through. Avoid phrases like "You're better off without them" or "There are plenty of fish in the sea." Instead, say, "I hear you" or "It's okay to feel this way.”

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3. Distract with Fun Activities

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Plan outings or activities to keep their mind off the breakup. It could be anything from a movie marathon to a hiking trip. The goal is to remind them that life goes on and joy still exists. Just be prepared for mood swings.

4. Offer Practical Support

Help with daily tasks that might feel overwhelming. Cook a meal, do their laundry, or accompany them to important appointments. These small gestures show you care and make their life a little easier during this tough time.

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5. Be Patient with the Process

Healing isn't linear. Your friend might seem fine one day and a mess the next. Don't push them to "get over it" quickly. Everyone processes grief differently. Be there for the long haul, understanding that recovery takes time.

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6. Encourage Self-Care Habits

Remind them to eat well, exercise, and get enough sleep. These basic self-care practices can significantly impact their mood and healing process. Maybe even join them in starting a new healthy habit as a show of solidarity.

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7. Share Your Own Experiences

If you've been through a similar situation, share your story. It can help them feel less alone. But remember, this isn't about you. Keep the focus on how you got through it, offering hope without overshadowing their experience.

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8. Help Them Rediscover

Breakups can be an opportunity for growth. Encourage them to revisit old hobbies or try new ones. This is a chance for them to reconnect with their individual identity, separate from the relationship they've lost.

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9. Set Boundaries if Needed

While being supportive, ensure you're not enabling destructive behavior. If they're constantly calling at 3 AM or making unhealthy choices, it's okay to set limits.

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10. Be the Voice of Reason

If they're considering reaching out to their ex or making rash decisions, gently remind them why the breakup happened. Sometimes, a friend needs to be the rational voice when emotions are running high.

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